Right Place, Right time...

I was reading a chapter in marketing today- integrating channels and advertising. This particular line struck me...and I started thinking, it's so much true, after all life is all about that. Actually I feel like most of the management subjects are connected with each other, most of them either talk about the contribution margins and the return on investment. What are doing with ourselves- taking as little risk as possible and expected the most out of it..low risk, high return strategy. In fact it can be said, most of the management's strategies are interlinked with life. Every person should do management in his/her life at least once. It teaches a lot about some things in life that we have taken for granted, removes certain misconceptions we have been carrying all way through.



Everything in life is predetermined , I feel. Destiny is there, I became a believer in destiny after a lot of deliberation, somethings which occur in life, which have no reasoning, somethings which are just there, without any logic. In meditation these days, I am getting a lot of answers to most of my questions...Its the karma; karma of your life that is heading you towards a particular thing or goal. When we start heading towards a particular goal, or work, its our karma which gets ys going. Just remember how many times in your life, you have done things just like that, you didn't really know exactly, why you behaved in a particular way or a particular manner.



The other day sir told a psychological case in meditation. I related myself to it so much. Most of his dictions I do relate to...this was something which I had really experienced. The case of a young lady, who falls who has a girlie crush over her brother-in-law while a walk on a trip. A walk in the woods, when most of their tastes match, aptitudes match. Sometimes, you just like someone, you just have no reasoning why are you getting attracted to that personality, when you know you have downright inhibitions which are going to prevent you from attain in the same. And then knowing that the thought was unethical, she wipes it off her mind ...though it penetrates into her mind deeper and deeper, is always in her subconscious thought. Her sister dies, few years down the line, and then st the same moment she feels that now that he is free she can marry him. Ohh !! such a dirty feeling, so unpious, she feels, She is ashamed of her thought again, knowing that this is not the way she should be thinking. But mind ...who can help....So there she tries harder to wipe it off the mind once again....She gets crippled, because of the same..Astounding?
doesn't it sound like that? Yes but sir, reasoned out, its because that she had those feelings when they met first and something had happened over the walk..the memory of the same, is haunting her...When she realizes the same, and let the crush go off, its then that her paralysis goes off..and she is back to normal..
So true, a story relating me to my past, remembering me of the sprain in my leg...yes I have experienced it !!! and it is not wonderful, not at all.
but these things happen, why no answer, but they do...they have to..!

The recent terrorist attacks in Mumbai, those 101 incorporeal souls and still countings, I wondered what they have done for they to be so mercilessly murdered. Sir had an answer for that. And I could relax my mind , only to learn that they are only paying off their karma, and we need not fill much about it.

Perhaps, they were just in the "Wrong place, wrong time... !!"

But then it doesn't mean either, that we just sit back and relax..destiny is written, but we have to read it also...

"The two most important requirements for major success are: first, being in the right place at the right time, and second, doing something about it"
-Ray Kroc, Mcdonalds ( one of the most popular management illustrations !!)

Projections and Relations

Why should others see me as they want to see...?
Why should I see myself in others...??
Why should people like and hate each other..???

All such questions do have an answer. The answer is projections. It was this point on which we lost our grades in the OB presentation. We gave all but this reason. OB presentation ..it is a different story to write about. We would have actually prepard a case on it...but just left the idea , just not to personalize things.

Sometimes I think why don't I write immediately after I feel. Yes..I should do that. Writing requires a lot of spontaneity. Getting the same mood to write about an incident is so difficult. Time passes, and so do emotions. And when you don't have enough emotions, the write-up turns out to be a blunt knife.

Day before yesterday, night actually. I felt so down, humiliated. Had a marketing case to do. I just sat mechanically throughout the entire discussion. Felt like telling my friend, to please excuse me that day. But I decided to hold on myself. Everyone has emotions, and you need to keep control on them. Venting out should be done at the right time, right place and in front of right person. So I came back to my room around 12.30 am. I banged and shut the door. Thank God my roomie was not there. Sometimes I believe God understands my need to be alone !! I put on the radio. It has been a coincidence for me or anything else you might call it as. But the radio plays the exact song , when I am in such troubled waters. ..Tadap tadap ke is dil se aah nikalti rahi..mujhko saja di pyar ki aisa kya gunha kiye..ki loot gaye........I changed..and I cried loudly, just like a kid. I washed my face, arranged the wardrobe, finished with my crunches, all with tears, hot and salty, and threw myself into bed. It had been months since I cried. The night before too, I had come after a hot discussion with him, it too had ended on such a serious note, and I felt good that I had finally gotten rid of what had happened. I just wanted him to know..know actually what the scene was..

Next morning he had surrendered. Wished me luck for exam and I thoguht the matter would end, we would talk something better over the the eve and be ready for an exhausting week ahead. But that was not destined to happen. Till the last minute things seemed pretty OK, but in the end we had flints. He said, "If you cant do even such a little thing for me, its ok, its end of topic then". Time and again , I had been convincing him , I would do but he cant force me into something I was never. The conversation again got heated up, I talked rude, and left...left only to be felt humilitated, insulted. I never had thought ever in my life , I would have to undergo this. All my life I had strived to preserve my sanctity, my space and my virtues. But I understood, now its just not being what I like, I do..but its being together..
At some points I do feel, its very natural of him to feel that way, to expect things from me, but then why was I hesitating...not to acknowledge the fact, but to commit..to commit for improvement. There was a certain flip side to the story as well.

What if I was not this..what if I was not that??? Can't you like somebody just like that? For no reason. Is there any need to have common thoughts, common goals, common physiques for people to bond togther. We can differ, right?? But no!! The society doesnt allow that. Everyone has a opinion for any damn thing you do in life. I do respect the foresaken rules of the society, and that if you need to live in society, you need to adapt by its principles and procedures. But why then life should become so cumbersome, if the societal rules were fair enough to everyone. If I am not expecting anyone to change, if I am accepting things as they are, then why can't people behave in the same manner towards me?? Why is it that only the fairer sex has to blend- for better or worse?? Why can't we be more assertive ?? I did that..I tried to be..but over the course I realized that I am losing on the relationship. And when you value the relation more than your principles, the objectivity and rationality gets clouded. I cried that day, only to prove this fact.

And look what I am doing now..I am striving to satisfy peoples' projections. To look as they want me to...to behave as they wish me too...Over the journey, I have realized that its a waste of time, striving hard to make others realize what you are and what you are not, to prove to othere your worth. Who are they to judge and who are they to decide?? everythingis a matter of relativity. Everything is relative to the place, people around, relative to time. Its just about being in the right place, at the time, and with the right people..everything else is nuts !! Hard for me to implement...yeasterday we patched up, of course he taking the initiative, and again I value my relation more ...

I advise though, in any relation , its imperative to find if you are liked as you are, or the projection you are displaying to continue the relation...
For the time being, I submit myself to the second option, but beware not always...



Just the beginning of the topic...!!!